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I'd like to start this review out on a serious note. I confess that I am quite disturbed that this book/series is being promoted as "romance". Nothing could be further from the truth. The character of Christian Grey is abusive, manipulative and above all controlling. This is what most people would classify as prima facie domestic abuse. I'm not just talking about the sex aspect (and to be honest I have no problem with BDSM). He dictates what she wears, what she eats and who she sees. I spent a few years watching someone very close to me suffer through an abusive relationship and learned more about the dynamics than I ever wanted to know. Domestic abuse isn't just about physical violence or emotional abuse. It is first and foremost about control. Complete and utter control of the victim, in which the abuser will act in whatever way they deem necessary to keep their victim under the thumb. If it pleases them to be nice, they'll be nice, often showering the victim with gifts. If the victim leaves, the abuser will follow in stalker-like fashion to bring them back. Sometimes they'll put on a kicked-puppy act, begging and pleading the victim to "come back" or "don't leave me, I love you!" It's a vicious cycle, that if allowed to play out, all too often ends up with the victim, usually a woman, dead. When I was watching one of these relationships in action, my husband and I used to sit and wonder if one day we'd be getting a phone call in the middle of the night to say he'd finally gone too far and had stabbed or beaten her to death. I can't imagine what she felt. I would not wish that sort of relationship on anyone. This is Christian Grey, as he is portrayed in the books. His behaviour is excused because he was abused as a child. I disagree with that, however traumatic a childhood you had does not give you license to punish and abuse women. And this is what is being passed off as romance. Although it has been dubbed as "mommy porn", you just know that younger girls are picking this up and reading it, getting the idea that this is what romance and the ideal partner should be. It isn't and it's reprehensibly irresponsible for the author and the publishers to promote it as such.

As for the rest of my review, I'm gonna have to borrow a gif format I saw on Goodreads because there is no way I can find all the words to express my feelings about this literary abomination.


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